Essential dos and don’ts for the perfect Jewish wedding.

Holding a traditional Jewish wedding.

It is customary for guests at a traditional Jewish wedding to throw themselves into the celebration with gusto. With this in mind, you’ll want a venue that is not only beautiful but has all the experience of what a wedding like this entails.

As one of Cheshire’s leading wedding venues, Dunham Forest Golf & CC is used to catering for all the traditions that give the happy couple and their guests the sendoff they deserve.

While it’s good to honour your culture and its customs in style, you’ll also want to celebrate in your own way. To guide you, here are some dos and don’ts to help you plan a celebration that is both traditional and meaningful to you.

Important dos for your traditional Jewish wedding.

Do get organised early and create a folder to countdown to your wedding day.

Use an online site to keep a private digital collection of your ideas for your big day, along with a checklist of to-dos and copies of booking forms and invoices. This is an excellent way to keep you on track during the countdown to your wedding as you can tick things off as soon as they are done. It can also be extremely useful for your venue and suppliers to help them fulfil your requirements for colour, theme, décor and design.

Do include evocative songs and readings.

Sit down with your intended and your respective families and discuss songs to sing or play as well as readings that have a particular significance for you. These could hold special memories of loved but absent family members, remind you of when you went on your first date together or the proposal. You could also include items like photos, a certain flower, or messages sent from your loved ones and guests that are woven into your overall décor.

Do discuss your requirements with your venue and suppliers.

The staff at your venue are there to support you and ensure the smooth running of your wedding. Do make time to speak with them to discuss the vision you have for your marriage ceremony and party. If the venue is experienced, like Dunham Forest, they could draw on their prior knowledge of traditional Jewish weddings to help advise you on running order and timings.

Depending on the venue, they could also help with the recommendation of suppliers and the creation of a celebration wedding package just for you. Communication is key for a successful wedding, so don’t shy away from asking questions of your venue and suppliers or assume your needs have been understood. If you’re not sure about something, ask anyway.

Do make some quiet time for yourself on the day.

After announcing your engagement, the time spent in preparation for your wedding will pass very quickly. Once the day arrives, do take some time for yourself to catch your breath and enjoy the moment. This is a momentous occasion in your life and the lead up to the ceremony can be hectic. Allow yourself some time and space to relax, savour all the hard work and let your venue manage the finer details.

Important don’ts for your traditional Jewish wedding.

Don’t get caught up in what everyone else wants. 

There may be certain things that are expected for a traditional Jewish wedding such as escorting the bride to the chuppah for the ceremony, the ketubah, the bedecken, circling the chuppah and – the most famous part – smashing the glass before the traditional rip-roaring hora begins. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t incorporate your own ideas for the occasion to be extra meaningful for you both. You may not be able to please everyone, but as long as you and your intended are happy, that’s the most important thing.

Don’t forget to use your checklist.  

Once you’ve created your checklist folder, don’t forget to use it!  Referring to it often will help to keep you on track time-wise and make sure that nothing gets missed, such as booking overnight accommodation, especially if you have guests coming from abroad. You can use it to collate and compare quotes, book and chase suppliers, confirm final numbers and make sure everything comes in time and on budget. Even if you are working with a wedding planner, keeping a folder like this will give you peace of mind that all the details have been taken care of.

Don’t worry if something unexpected happens.

The unexpected can happen at weddings. This could include some additional children or people who haven’t observed the dress code. An experienced venue will be wise to this and be able to accommodate last-minute changes without any drama.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that quality means expensive.

Not only do you want your traditional Jewish wedding to be memorable for you, you’ll also want your invitees to remember for all the right reasons. You’ll want everything to hit the right note from the quality and quantity of the food and drink to service provided on the day.

Demanding good value doesn’t mean you have to compromise on quality. Our experienced team here at Dunham Forest Golf & CC, can advise you on the range of wedding packages we offer, including tailored options. We can also provide a list of trusted wedding suppliers from entertainment to cakes, wedding gifts, photography and transport. Contact us at Dunham Forest Golf & CC for more details.

Our team at Dunham Forest Golf & CC have hosted many traditional Jewish weddings and know exactly what’s involved. We not only offer excellent service we also offer stunning surroundings to act as the perfect backdrop for your photos and videos of your big day.

To discuss your requirements in further detail or to book an appointment to visit our luxury Cheshire wedding venue, please contact laura@dunhamforest.com or mike@dunhamforest.com or call us on 0161 928 2605.